Why then are some relationships short leave? Are you in a relationship and Do you feel like your marraige is falling apart and you are not ready to let go of the pieces? There just might be something you can do.
Let me have the honor of unveiling the secrets right before your eyes......
Lack communication.
This is the number on reason for separation in most marriages. It usually starts with you not narrating the little quarrel you had out of home or not saying the real reason why you don't want something then you not even talking at all. Be your partner's best friend the first person you should want to tell something to good or bad should be him or her.
When there is something wrong, Talk about it calmly and if needed state specific examples of when the other person did wrong cuz it is easier to understand with examples.
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Communicate not shouting or complaining. It involves really listening keenly not just because you are looking for a response.
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Call each other during the day to just say random things that happened during the day and remind yourselves of your love. Eat together, listen to each other talk
No spark
Let me ask you a question, how did you celebrate your last anniversary? Whether you are married, engaged or just living together you need to keep fanning the flames of your relationship. How?? Surprise each other. Who said only the guy is allowed to surprise you. Even if you have kids you can put them to sleep early or send them on weekend or better still, you go for the weekend.
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If you expect to be treated special treat him special and like wise for a guy. Also take note of some questions to consider before getting into a serious relationship.
No care for yourself
Big top, pyjamas,bad hair... does that describe how you look at home most of the time, if so you need to step up your game lady, allow him see your naturally glowing skin, look good and smell good as often as possible.
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No Compliments
Did he wear that shirt that makes him younger, did she just do her hair, of course she knows she looks good but hearing it from you will be a 10 over 10 in fact it would boost her confidence from 5 to 50 and you will definitely make her day.
No fun
Of course you both may work and have busy days still you need to have time for each other. A simple well planned heart to heart talk under the stars may go a long way it building you bond as a couple.
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Do things together both small things like a walk down the road and big things like watching a movie, laundry, gardening and so on.
Appreciate each other
Does she cook or do the laundry? Does he help with the kids or clean the garden? Appreciate her and Appreciate him. A simple thank you even for the smallest things will show appreciation and make her feel important.
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Think about when you were still dating what are some things you used to do that you don't do any more.
Apologize quickly
Have you ever said something and you after sometime you feel like you wouldn't have said it or do you have many unresolved issues with your mate. It would be much easier to forgive if you apologized as soon as the crime is committed. More over,don't allow pride (how get rid of pride) cause you to think that only the one who did wrong has to apologize. As long as the apology is heartfelt it is a be a plus for you.
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How to forgive and let go of anger
Your marraige or relationship may be at the verge of collapse but one thing is sure, if you both are not ready to let go, and you can work it out. Together
Dear Emperor/Empress
Thanks much much for reading!!!
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