5 Major must know’s for Every Relationship

Consider before marriage 

 Finally, you have met him/her and you just can't take your eyes of him, you feel like you two are inseperable it seems like a fairytale. Then, the best thing happens he proposed and you said Yes. It's just like in the movies.  You may be thinking what could possibly go wrong?

Well, let's think again there are some things you need to agree on before the D-day.

Let me unveil these 5 secrets right before your eyes......

Family 

Yes of course, by now you have met his mother and entire family he has met yours too but the big question is Would the Family be involved in your marraige? That is when you have issues (which will come up) Would you call a Family meeting? Or talk about it as a couple 

Housing 

where would you two live? If in your own house great but if with a relative how does your partner feel about it? Have you tried visiting for a few days to see what it would look like? Are you comfortable?  Visiting: Are Family members allowed to visit you guys? If so when? (That is how many days after the wedding) should do they call before coming? Or is it cultural for your to be doors open when ever.

Finances 

Money they say is the root of all evil. So my Empress have you discussed? Are you going to work? If yes. Is he aware of your work schedule? How would he feel if you get a raise or a promotion? If not. Is it my Emperor who is providing for everything?

Personal 

Why do you love him or why does he love you? What qualites in particular is it the way you care for people? The way you respect them? The way you carry your self? Or is it it just your

glowing skin and physical beauty? Do you his future plans? Does he know yours? Can you fit into the plan or are you willing to make some adjustments. Have you made new plans together?

     For my Emperor (him) how does he react if some one disrespects you? What if it is a family member? What if someone else keeps staring at you while your at dinner or worse sends you a note? One the scale of one to ten how will you rate his reaction? Is it loving and kind or angry and harsh? 

How often do you talk? Do you talk about your lives, and personal decisions? Even the little one's like wether to take a client or not. Do you have clear boundaries of the things allowed in your relationship?

Children 

 Of course he loves kids I've seen him carry people's kids before. That's great but it is is a completely different story when they live with you, the bathing, the laundry not to talk about the  running around. Does he want this, if so great if not do you love him enough to live without these cute little trouble makers?

I know these are so many things think about but have some confidence in yourself and in your partner 

Tip 

¹ If you are still to agree on some things with your partner please don't make it a question and answer session but a  conversation remember to talk with him/her not to him.

² When it comes to family being involved it may be sensitive but you need to be open to each other and really listen.

³ My advice my Empress is that when problems come don't  attack each other attack the problem. 

⁴ Do your best to avoid the words you never and you always. 

⁵remember it is a relationship think not of what is best for you but what is best for us 

These tips can help you prevent separation or divorce in the long run 

You can start the by saying babe(or whatever you sweet names are) I just realised I haven't asked you this question yet. How do you expect your married life to look like? 

Dear Emperor/Empress,

    Thanks much much for reading!!!